Saturday, August 1, 2009


I finally got on Facebook. I avoided it for a long time, only because it seemed like it could be a way to waste a lot of time and I don't have enough time as it is. Then in one week, I missed a friend's birth announcement and the fact that another friend had actually sold and moved out of her house (without a new house to move into) and had somebody ask me five days in a row if I was on Facebook yet. I gave in, got on, and kind of liked it. I posted random things I was doing, saw pictures of friends kids, friended a few people.

I decided I didn't need to friend everybody I ever knew who was on Facebook, but there were a couple of people from college who I hadn't talked to in years. I got into a little back and forth with one of them, and she asked about me and I gave a brief summary of the last 15-20 years, including that I had a baby who died. And then I waited.

And I haven't hear from her since. It's been four days.

First thoughts . . . maybe she didn't read it yet. Then . . . maybe she is thinking about how to respond. Now . . . guess that's that.

It makes me wary about telling people. I will keep telling people, but I'll always feel vulnerable once I write it or say it, waiting to see the response—or lack thereof.


  1. And this is precisely why I'm still not back on Facebook. I tried it back in January and it was all a bit of a disaster. I'll keep my distance for now.

  2. I've read so many stories . . . but I thought I could do it now.

  3. I have a complete and total love-hate relationship with Facebook. I got on it while I was still on 'medical leave' after Ezra died...I have no clue why...hardly the time to be connecting with old high school and college friends. I ended up writing a short note in my profile about Ezra so people would 'know' but that didn't stop the cheery 'what's up' messages. I try to treat FB as entertainment rather than truly an aspect of my social life. And now I'm going to go find you there...

  4. I'm so sorry, Sara. My theory about facebook is that it's really only for happy things (and sometimes petty irritations), which means a lot of my life (and others' lives) doesn't seem to belong there.

    I hope this person writes back to you with compassion and interest, even though this particular hope may be a long shot.

  5. Sara,

    I hope that person writes back too, and that they have just been offline and haven't gotten your message. I know I'm on Facebook practically 24-7 but I know other people aren't so I don't expect them to get back to me as fast as I might.

    You can friend me if you want! :)
    -Shannon DeAngelis